Since we recently celebrated Mother’s Day and Father’s Day I thought I would talk about honoring our parents. Father’s day was this past Sunday and it was a wonderful day for me, thanks to my family. However, it was also a sad day for me because it was the first time I wasn’t able to pick up the phone and call my dad to wish him a happy Father’s Day. You see, he passed away this past fall. I miss him.
It got me thinking about parents and children and the many diverse relationships they have with each other – from very strong and close to none at all. I think about my dear mother. She lives just a half mile from my home now. It’s not much of an effort for me to go over there to see her yet I always feel I don’t do it enough. When I do see her I tend to want to apologize to her for not visiting her enough. She always tells me to stop it and then proceeds to go on and on about what a wonderful and thoughtful son I am, which, in reality, I know I’m not. I could and should be a much better son.
How is your relationship with your parents? Is it what you’d like it to be? Is it what it should be? What should your relationship be like? The Ten Commandments seem to have gone out of fashion in our modern world, which I think is very sad. The seventh commandment reads:
“Honor thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.” (Exodus 20:12)
I believe that commandment is still in effect today. I’m reminded of a couple of stories I heard years ago. I don’t know their sources. I think they each teach poignant lessons. Here is the first one:
“Just next door lives a wonderful old man. He is still very alert and active. That special morning he awakened earlier than usual, bathed, shaved and put on his best clothes. Surely, he thought, they would come today.
“He didn’t take his daily walk to the gas station to visit with the old-timers of the community, because he wanted to be right there when they came.
“He sat on the porch with a clear view of the road so he could see them coming. Surely they would come today.
“He decided to skip his noon nap because he wanted to be up when they came.
“He had six children. Two of his daughters and their married children lived within four miles. They hadn’t been to see him for such a long time. But today was a special day. Surely they would come today.
“At suppertime he refused to cut the cake and asked that the ice cream be left in the freezer. He wanted to wait and have dessert with them when they came.
“About 9 o’clock he went to his room and got ready for bed. His last words before turning out the lights were: ‘Promise to wake me when they come.’
“You see, it was his birthday, and he was 91.”